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A Strangers View

My husband and I walk to Starbucks every morning for a coffee date. Most days I roll out of bed, brush my teeth, and throw a hat on to cover my unkempt hair and my makeup free face. Thank goodness I’m confident in my husband’s unconditional love, and don’t feel like I have to try to look like a model every time we walk out of the house. But, if someone were to ask me if I feel beautiful during my morning coffee times, I would probably snot the coffee out of my nose while laughing hysterically.

This morning, as we were standing in line to order our coffee, the lady in front of us turned to say, “We’ve not met, but I’m your neighbor that lives two houses down from you.” We exchanged names and shook hands. She then turned to me and said, “you’re a fitness trainer right?” With a VERY confused look on my face, I told her no, that I teach piano. She immediately said, “Really? My daughter and I see you outside all the time and we were sure you were a fitness instructor; you look so fit.” I thanked her for the compliment and proceeded to stumble through the rest of our conversation, amazed that someone would think that I looked good enough to be a fitness instructor.

Less than an hour later, as I was looking for something encouraging to text a friend of mine, I came across this quote:

“You are so used to your features,

you don’t know how beautiful you look to a stranger.”


These simple words hit me hard, especially after my earlier conversation. My neighbors words kept coming back to me and made me shake my head incredulously each time. As I kept thinking about it, two questions kept whispering to me.

One – Why am I so surprised that someone else would see me as that beautiful?

Two – Why don’t I see myself as that beautiful?

We are so incredibly hard on ourselves. To think we are so used to hearing the negative commentary in our heads when we see ourselves in the mirror, that we do not see the beauty in ourselves, is a very sad thought to me. It also occurred to me that stepmoms are not only hard on themselves, but they also have a lot of other voices in their lives telling them where they don’t measure up.

So, I wanted to give all of you beautiful stepmoms an encouraging word today.


There are no if’s, and’s or but’s attached to that statement. No pre-qualifications or changes necessary. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL

My prayer for you today, is that you can actually SEE and FEEL the truth of that reality.

Written by LauraBeth Hoisington with the Starving Stepmom

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